Posted by: reachdev | December 1, 2009

Dealing with Disappointment

It is said that bad news comes in threes and that seemed to be true for me during the past week or so. The first instance was a call from my oldest son with the news that he had not made the college baseball team, something that was very important to him. The next day I received a rejection letter from a publisher regarding a manuscript they had been reviewing. Finally, a client sent me an e-mail to let me know that a couple of training programs that we had been planning were being put on the back burner for a few months. Now I realize that none of these were traumatic or earth shattering, but all were disappointing nonetheless. And when they came in such close proximity, it seemed to take the wind out of my sails.

How then, do we respond when this “veil of tears” deals us one disappointment upon another? I know for me that I let is get me down for a couple of days and that my weekend was less joyful that I hoped it would be. Others however, might find that it affects their confidence or their belief in their abilities. Some might take it so far as to quit a particular endeavor and live with their disillusionment forever. Unfortunately, these choices don’t cause us to grow and become more resilient in the future. Or as my father always said, we lose our chance to “build some character”. Instead, give the sting of frustration some time to lose its edge, analyze your options thoughtfully and make a logical decision on how to move ahead. You may find that your path is still correct, but you need to give yourself additional opportunities to succeed. In the words of Thomas Edison, “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”


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